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April 23, 2012

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TWM

True enough OG. After a slight, no matter how small or large the reaction to it is out of your control. You do what is necessary and will yourself to live comfortably with the end result. To do otherwise would only load up that baggage of the slow moving tremblers who do not know how to unload, unwind and be objective about everything. Live now in silence and never fear for another again. Which would be the way if relationships weren't clamoring for gardening.

Jen

TWM I am confused by "Live now in silence and never fear for another again" Living in silence is living in fear.

Carolyn Magura

Claudia: effective "human interactions" has ALWAYS been a passion - both in the workplace and personally - for me. As a Human Resources Executive during my "work lives", I loved researching, learning, and applying ways to create environments where folks can and will want to participate, cooperate, and excel.

Toward this end, I have mastered what I call "effective" ways of first learning about my own ways of getting and giving information, and about how to optimally give and get information from others. The MBTI - Myers Briggs Type Inventory (http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/) is one of my favorites.

Bottomline, whenever anyone initiates an interaction with someone else, the initiator wants something from that contact. In the case of this "forgiveness in the context of a relationship", you want to trigger forgiveness from the person you have inadvertently - it is assumed - "hurt". To best do this, You need to communicate with that person in ways that he/she can best understand you - NOT how YOU best take in and process information.

Hope that this helps as an idea to help.

TWM

Jen--Living in silence not of mouth but of mind. Everyone it seems has a million different issues and voices inside clamoring for attention and tugging at them to go hither and yon rushing from this problem to that goal. That to me is a blend for confusion and fear that nothing will ever get done.

I have become pretty good at the silence of mind and heart state of being by dealing with things as they come up, never letting anything fester within. There are many different names for being able to be quiet but fear is absolutely not one of them.

I care for people but I do not accept fear for or from them, I know that the way we are now is contingent on past misunderstandings or understanding all of the experiences we have been through. I chose to look at the pain filled memories, understand the root of them, unload the baggage left over from them. I found that the more I understood what made me, me the quieter my soul became. I like quiet in my mind.

OGClaudia

"To do otherwise would only load up that baggage of the slow moving tremblers who do not know how to unload, unwind and be objective about everything." Fabulous!

OGClaudia

Thanks for clarifying your thoughts! :) There is a fear-created silence, and the silence of acceptance.

OGClaudia

This is well said. I like this: "You need to communicate with that person in ways that he/she can best understand you – NOT how YOU best take in and process information." I love the Myers Briggs as well! :)

OGClaudia

Thanks for asking the question. I think Mark answered, but for me often silence is peace.

Jen

TWM-I'm sorry I missed your response to my post.Thank you for taking the time to explain/clarify.
OGCaudia-Thank you too for your comments.

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