At the desk, 8:18 a.m.
Do we ever know what goes on inside another person's marriage? I think I know what my marriage looks like, but do I really know what my next door neighbor's marriage looks like? How about the Jones' at the end of the block?
I don't know what happens between them. I can barely keep track of my own life, my own marriage.
This year we've watched so many celebrity marriages fall apart.
How could Seal and Heidi Klum split up? They did such a great job of convincing us they were the perfect marriage. And Johnny Depp and Vanessa Pardis? How do you go from "We're not split up" to splitting up only a few days later?
Usually with these matter, I keep a fairly even head. These people are professional actors. They make a living creating a fantasy for everyone. I mean seriously, Rock Hudson was married twice. And plus, it has absolutely nothing to do with me.
But yesterday's celebrity splits of the day got me fired up: Katie Holmes filed for divorce from the kooky Tom Cruise and the wealthy, talented Anne Sinclair finally kicked her scumbag rapist husband Dominique Strauss-Kahn to the curb.
I know what you're going to say because I say it myself - "It's always sad when a marriage falls apart and, the case of Ms Holmes and Mr. Cruise, there is a child involved."
But let me tell you, I had a client who went to Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise's 10 year anniversary party. You know, the party that celebrated their 10th year of marriage? The party where he read her the most beautiful love poem? The one he filed for divorce from her only days later much to her shock and despair? The 10 years he claimed they weren't married so he wouldn't have to pay more? As a therapist, I listened in gory detail after gory detail about the party, the break up, and the court case.
It's hard to stay neutral after all of that and I'm not even going to pretend to be neutral on the Strauss-Kahn thing.
So, for the moment, I pray that these two women - Katie Holmes and Anne Sinclair - have the support they need to get these men as far away from them as possible. May they be blessed with a purer, truer love in their future. May they have the strength to get through the next year or so of detox and healing.
When the moment passes, I'll return to: "How can we ever know what goes on inside someone else's marriage?" and "Gosh, I don't know these people at all."