Some days, kindness comes easily. And other days, it’s wicked hard to be kind, think of the other person, believe that everyone’s doing their best and blah blah blah.
Why are these days so different from each other?
In my search to understand kindness, I’ve learned that the difference is me. I either believe that I have something to give or I don’t. Living kindly takes a lot of space and generosity.
Some days, the generosity runs out. I’m tired. I’m stressed out. I feel a lot of pressure. And most often, I’ve given too much.
I’ve learned that, on those days, the kindness thing I can do is work to refill my well. I might take a nap or knit for a while or plurk on nonsense with the plurkbuds, or….
What do you do to refill your well? How do you know when you need it?
There is only three ways to fill a well. Dig a new one, dig the old one deeper or fight that which is draining the well.
I’ve done all three.
I need to take some time to refill my own well. I am running dry and my lack of kindness won’t be good for anyone.
Happy refilling! XOXO
I think my well is practically dry. I love this. I’m going to check out those other blogs and replenish my well. Thanks for sharing!
ok i not good at figurtive speach but i think you not talking about a real well right? i live by two simple rule my mom (RIP) taught me so long ago
1.if you cant say something nice dont bother opening your mouth
2. do to others as you would want them to do to you
i think these have got me far in life ty mom
I usually lose myself in writing or reading, but when I need to bring in the heavy artillery I listen to Vivaldi, which restores my spirit and returns me to a place where I can give again.
I’m always finding the balance between solitude and community. I need a lot of solitude but then, like making yogurt, I have to go out and get some new culture after a while or it all goes flat.
sometimes i just walk out of the room and that’s enough to keep me from going crazy.
I try to get alone. And if I can, I get into some music. Music can change anything to anything you want, up, down, whatever you want. In lieu of that, a nap helps a lot.
The older I get, the easier it is to choose kindness … perhaps because anything else requires excess energy and leaves me feeling drained.
Hugs and blessings,