Simply Kind Tuesdays : Week 4 – Those voices.

“”We can drop the fundamental hope that there is a better “me” who one day will emerge.”
–Pema Chodron 

Let’s face it. 

Everyone has a voice inside their head that says awful things. No human being is spared. The methods to tame this voice as so varied that entire bookstores are filled with suggestions.

And none of them work.

For decades we’ve treated the human psyche as if it had cancer. We work to rip out one defect after another in an attempt to create the psychologically correct human being.

And still, these voices exist.

It’s time to stop the psyche surgery.

And begin a little kindness toward yourself.

The next time you hear the screaming, angry, judgemental voice in your head, imagine it’s a frightened three year old. Rather than pressing it down, treat it with kindness.

“There, there, everything will be all right” or “Thank you for your input” or even “That’s enough now.”

This won’t rid you of the voice.

This voice is never going away.  

Being kind to your darkest voice creates an atmosphere of internal kindness. Your simple kindness will grow into a garden of acceptance for all of your human psyche.

Try it.

In fact, try it with your children. When you hear your child say something negative about himself or herself, say, “There, there, everythings all right” or “I love you”.  In doing so, you teach your child to kindly sooth this voice.

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