He sees sex.
I read an article (which I cannot find now) which stated that when a man meets a woman, he visualizes having sex with her. But when a woman meets a man, she visualizes kissing him.
I thought this was, well, weird, because I’m a woman and I’ve never visualized kissing anyone. Ever.
So I started thinking about it. And this is what I came up with.
You know all that stuff about what women want in a partner? Oh come on, you’ve read it. Women want a kind, considerate partner. Women want understanding not fixing. Women want a polite partner who opens doors for them, says “thank you” and “please”. You know that stuff?
Well, the truth is that these are the requirements for great sex.
While a man might take one look at a woman and know how it’s all going to, shall we say, work out. Women are interested in having fun, relating, and possibly building something special. A considerate, kind person is a great lover. A polite person isn’t selfish in bed. And being understood? (She smiles sheepishly.) That’s what it’s all about.
What do you think?
Filed under: Da Boys, Da Gym, Thoughts on being human....
I represent a nation of men whose relex politeness correlates with them being terrible lovers.
Moobs - Uh huh, (wink) that’s what P says. Sure.
Thanks, Claudia.
Do all men look at women with sex in mind? Do all women look at men with kissing in mind?
You don’t and I don’t so does that mean women are liars? Shocking.
I really don’t believe women want polite lovers. Think of the appeal of Heathcliffe or Mr Rochester. However, they may want polite husbands…
Angela
I think that men in general tend to have sex on their minds. Like when my husband and I argue, he can get over it so fast and be ready for sex. I on the other hand need more apology, more discussing, more stuff. He’s like wooo hooo, let’s get it on.
Angela - Maybe there’s some happy medium between too polite and too self absorbed. I’m certain we all want polite husbands.
Nila - Well, think of it this way. He’s spent the entire argument thinking of sex wondering when you’ll stop talking and you can get it on. Or so this premise would asuume!
I think whatever you think. Now, can we just get on with it?!
BroLo - So true.
I think that articles which generalize about male or female behavior are bound to be wrong much of the time.
And it’s a good thing that we don’t all want the same things in a partner because most of us would do without once that One Person desired by all was taken.
Heart in SF - Yes! Thank goodness. We’d all be fighting over Flip!